What's your point of view?
Someone asked if a dark secret should be revealed or concealed..
In my point of view, everyone has a secret whether it's dark or not. Some secrets are meant to be kept and not to be told whereas some secrets could be told to someone else but not to the person concerned. That could be called gossips for real.
What if we happen to know someone's secret? Would we just keep silent about it or tell others about the person concerned?
Let me voice my opinion. If I knew someone's secret and it's better to be quiet about it, I would do just that. Some people can't keep secrets and thus most secrets are revealed and they might cause shame or pain to the person concerned.
Regarding past secrets, maybe it's best to leave it alone as it's over and has no concerned to the person anymore. Bringing it up or telling the secret might jeopardize most people.
What about present secret whereby it's still happening? Should we confront the person concerned or just pretend not knowing anything about it?
Lets hear your view about it.
if secrets have been told to somebody else, then it will not remain as a secret, but perhaps an open secret?? haha..
ReplyDeletesecret told is not a secret anymore..
Deleteto me, i think there is always a secret at least in everybody.. something we do not want people to know, be it dark or not.. and that will be kept with us until we get into the tomb..
ReplyDeleteeveryone has at least a secret in himself/herself..
Deletei think i am somebody who can keep secret.. i will always judge and think through the consequence before i tell others a secret of someone..
ReplyDeleteIt's better to consider the consequences before we tell a secret..
Deletelike you said, if it can cause pain and shame and jeopardize the person.. definitely i will not tell at all.. it's not good to "put salt onto one's wound" like the chinese say.. i always believe in karma too~~
ReplyDeletetrue..I can keep secrets if it's not right to be told..
Deletepresent secret and confrontation?? well, i don't find a link there.. i mean why do we care, it's just the business between that two person right?? i would choose to pretend that i do not know, the persons involved should have settle things themselves..
ReplyDeleteif the secret has nothing to do with us, then we better keep quiet about it..
Deletehmmmm, looks like you were caught between?? hehehe.. good luck!! :)
ReplyDeletethere are always different ways of looking into it..
DeleteHide them in our closets.. a lot of "skeletons" inside.. hahaha.. ok, seriously, if we promise not to reveal, it is ethical that we keep it to ourselves...
ReplyDeletesometimes, a friend confides in us his/her secrets, we should keep it too..
Deleteagree with Claire. Hide them
Deletehide them in our heart..
DeleteIgnorance is bliss let the person have a peace of life. Unless you know that this person is harmful to society then it's a different story to warn people.
ReplyDeletetrue..if the secret will harm someone, then we should reveal it to the right person..
Deletewell secrets are the dark things that could be burdening us and it was said that you can't keep a secret forever so i guess revealing it is a must
ReplyDeleteit all depends..if it's not serious, then we shouldn't reveal it since it's a secret..
Deletebut iguess there's always a right time for everything and there will always be exemptions
ReplyDeletetrue..every secret has its right to be either revealed or concealed.
Deletehave a great day and happy blogging
ReplyDeletethanks for sharing your point of view..
DeleteI rather people don't tell me secrets, or say, don't tell anyone yet. You hold it and realise other people already know.
ReplyDeletesometimes people can't be entrusted to keep secrets..
DeleteWell, if that person already told us not to tell anyone about that particular secrets, we should respect him/her and keep the promise.
ReplyDeleteyes, that's the other best..otherwise don't listen and so no need to keep..
DeleteBeing a scopion, I consider myself a good secret keeper, which I will not leak any secret if told. But to myself, it's always GOOD to keep secret only to oneself, and not to be told even to the nearest person..
ReplyDeleteif the secret is not meant to be known to anyone, then just keep it..
DeleteI seldom like to keep secrets about myself. I prefer to tell all and have good sleep!
ReplyDeleteHi 5, me too, I am a open book, sad, happy, cry and laugh all on my facial expression. I don't like to hide anything.
Deletethat's good..anyway, a secret is always a secret unless it's told, then it's not a secret anymore..
DeleteIf they are dark secrets of the past, it is best not to dig them out and stir up a storm! Let bygones be bygones!
ReplyDeleteWhatever in the past, just let it be, I agree with TM, no point to mention again.
Deletetrue, what's past is past..better look towards the future..
DeleteI have secrets too and it is best to bury them. We should not regret anything in life and just move on.
ReplyDeleteMost people have secrets but it's no point bringing them up..
DeleteIf the current secret, I will judge the consequences of tell and not tell. See which consequences I can bare then only make my decision to reveal it.
ReplyDeleteyes, it's better that we consider first before we reveal any secret..
Deleteif want a secret to be a secret then better not tell at all.
ReplyDeleteyes, keep the secret to oneself..
Deleteonce a secret is told then it will no longer be a secret and migyht be revealed at anytime with or without intention
ReplyDeletecan't trust anyone to keep a secret..
Deleteya...once told out the secret then have to expect the secret might leak out anytime.
Deleteit's very risky if we tell anyone a secret..
Deleteto keep or to reveal a secret will depend on ones thinking lor. If to reveal it , and it will bring good. then hould do but if it wont bring any good and do harm, better not.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. If it's for the better, then it's considered ok. Otherwise, don't reveal it.
Deletebut like Ann said, better dont know about any secret
ReplyDeleteso if anyone wants to tell a secret, we better say, don't tell me!
Deletei would rather not know. Unless the person who wanna tell me is someone who is very close to me and listening to it may help her. Sometimes a person just need to "unload" coz the secret is eating her life.
DeleteI would listen but I have to keep that secret too..
Deletenot sure about what you say "What about present secret whereby it's still happening? Should we confront the person concerned or just pretend not knowing anything about it?".
ReplyDeletefor me if there is no benefit then just pretend dont know about it lo. If confront will bring to family breaking up and all that it is not worth it unless love is no longer there
sometimes present secret is hurtful to the person. So we need to see if revealing the secret might help.
Deletethat is one big headache lor. Just dont know the right time to reveal.
Deleteyes, can do much. Better don't know any secret.
DeleteSecrets are meant to be kept quiet about it. I won't sell other people's secrets and doesn't want ppl to take about my secrets too if they knew about it. I've been keeping a big secrets for years....and I just have to continue keeping it because I've promised not to tell. A promise have to be kept too.......
ReplyDeleteyes, a promise is a promise..
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