My second aunt
My eldest aunt (my late dad's sister) passed away recently and many relatives were present. My second, third and youngest aunties were there too. I haven't seen them for ages. We didn't talk much as we had the rituals to follow for the whole night of last Friday. Last Saturday was the funeral and we had another ritual to follow. When everything was done, it was already past noon.
Then we followed to the graveyard. My late aunt was buried beside her late husband who passed away many years ago. The day was fine as it had been raining for the whole night before the funeral. The grave was wet and it was messy. Anyway, all's done and by the time we got home, it was already 2.30pm after we had our lunch at the casual market.
mum and second aunt
My second aunt lives in Ipoh but I haven't seen her for quite some time. Recently my uncle, her husband had passed away and I didn't know about it. I felt sorry for her. Last Thursday, she had gone to Taiping by bus as she couldn't get me.
After the funeral, she decided to follow me back to Ipoh and last night she stayed at my mum's place. We chatted and I found that she was actually a very easy-going person. Previously, we had the impression that she didn't like people to bother her.
Her late husband was a more homely person and so she had to accompany her. That was why she hardly came out too. But now it's a difference case. She's all alone as her children are all in UK.
I heard a lot of story from her about her family. I might relate about it some time.
We have lots to catch up, aunt. Hope to see more of you in future..
God bless you...
That is nice to catch up with your aunt. :)
ReplyDeleteThe ritual reminded me of my grandparents' funeral. It was tiring and long process. We have to kneel and stand most of the ritual. That was more than 15 years ago but the memory of my grandparents still remain. I miss them.
Deletetrue, I got to meet my aunties and cousins whom I have not met for a long time. Great to catch up with them.
DeleteGod bless her too!!! =]
ReplyDeleteyes, best wishes to her too..
DeleteIt is good to catch up with family members...
ReplyDeletethat was the only when we really sat and chatted..
DeleteRIP your eldest aunt and sorry to hear about the lost.. anyway, glad that you found your second aunt an easy-going person and i am sure you'll be spending more time with her soon, at the same time listening to more "histories" from her.. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks SK. Yes, she has shown us the other side of her which was great. I really hope to meet up with her more often.
DeleteThe buried in Malaysia, is it perm?
ReplyDeleteyes, burial can still be selected.
DeleteHere we can't select, as in the website, they stated Allocation of burial plots is strictly by sequential order and an applicant shall be
Deleteallocated a burial plot on the day of the intended burial. An applicant shall not be
entitled to select any other burial plot instead of the allocated burial plot.
the burial plot might not be selected but what I meant here was we can select whether we want a burial or a cremation.
DeleteAs in Singapore, the buried, it's 15 years....
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure about the situation over here..
DeleteI am sure she and your mom had lots to talk about during the one night stay... my auntie also likes to come over to my mom's place nowadays and stay overnight and I love to listen to their olden days' stories.. (incidents) ...
ReplyDeleteyes, they were indeed chatty and I learned a lot of stories from them.
DeleteHello Wenn,
ReplyDeleteMay your eldest aunt rest in peace. Sometimes it is the sad events like funerals that bring relatives together.
Good to hear that you gave your 2nd aunt a lift back to Ipoh. Sounds like you will be seeing your second aunt a lot more now that you found her to be a pleasant person. :)
Thanks Mun. Yes, I'm glad that I gave her a lift. She kept me company all along the way. And most importantly, she seems humble and I like it that way.
DeleteThank you Wenn for the Chinese New Year card. I have just received it.
ReplyDeleteyou are most welcome..
DeleteMay your 1st aunt rest in peace. It is good to catch up with the other relatives, especially the elders. Time passed by so quickly and we should really treasured them while they are still alive.
ReplyDeletevery true..we should visit the elders more often..
DeleteMy condolence on the passing of your big aunt
ReplyDeleteas we grows older it seems that we only gather when there is a wedding or a death :(
Deletethat's always the case but we should try to make the effort to visit them..
DeleteThis post is so special and brought so much sentimental memories flooding to my head. We all have common stories in life about births, weddings and funerals which say that our lives are just a journey for us to walk. So we should live meaningfully and lead the middle paths in everything we do.
ReplyDeleteyes, I feel it's our duty to visit the elderly..
ReplyDeleteGod bless your aunt, you take care too!
ReplyDeleteThanks..
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