Reconciliation
My mum has eight children. We were rather poor and when my eldest sister was born, my mum was not able to take care of her. My grandmother who was my father's stepmother, adopted her. My mum was not allowed to visit my sister at all. So as she grew up, she regarded herself an orphan. But my aunties ie my father's stepsisters, were understanding and they tried to make our relationship worked.
However, she knew that she has 4 brothers and 3 sisters. I was in the same school as her. We did see each other quite often in school. As I grew older and I knew how to cycle, I would cycle to my grandmother's house to visit my sister.
One day, I talked to my sister about our parents. She was not happy as she was the only one not with the family. I told her to reconcile with my mum but she refused saying that my grandmother was the one that supported her through and not my mum.
I told her that she was lucky as she could go to university but not us as my parents couldn't afford it. Somehow, she was not eager to come back even after she was married.
But I kept in touch with her. She was posted to JB after her degree in USM. When I got married, I was rather busy with my life. So we hardly see each other. No matter what, we wrote to each other.
Until recently in 2005, my brother and I decided to visit my sister. At that time, my grandmother had already passed away. So my sister was not worried anymore. I brought along my mum. Initially, my mum was not eager but I insisted that she followed me there.
When my mum and my sister met after all these years, they were rather mutual. That started their connection. My sister started to call more often asking about my mum and even talked to her once in a while.
However, she knew that she has 4 brothers and 3 sisters. I was in the same school as her. We did see each other quite often in school. As I grew older and I knew how to cycle, I would cycle to my grandmother's house to visit my sister.
One day, I talked to my sister about our parents. She was not happy as she was the only one not with the family. I told her to reconcile with my mum but she refused saying that my grandmother was the one that supported her through and not my mum.
I told her that she was lucky as she could go to university but not us as my parents couldn't afford it. Somehow, she was not eager to come back even after she was married.
But I kept in touch with her. She was posted to JB after her degree in USM. When I got married, I was rather busy with my life. So we hardly see each other. No matter what, we wrote to each other.
Until recently in 2005, my brother and I decided to visit my sister. At that time, my grandmother had already passed away. So my sister was not worried anymore. I brought along my mum. Initially, my mum was not eager but I insisted that she followed me there.
When my mum and my sister met after all these years, they were rather mutual. That started their connection. My sister started to call more often asking about my mum and even talked to her once in a while.
In 2006, she saw my mum again during my mum's birthday celebration.
Recently, I made a trip to JB and this time, my mum willingly tagged along. When we reached her house, I was surprised that both my mum and sister were in the room for quite some time. When they came out, we had a group photo taken.
Here I took a close shot of both my mum and my sister. Guess this was the first time they felt they were close to each other.
When we reached the hotel, I asked my mum what happened in the room. She related her story:
Mum: "It wasn't that I didn't want you. After you, I gave birth to your brother and your sister. I couldn't take care of so many of you. Since Ah Mah wanted you, I gave you to her."
Sis: "Well, it happened long ago. Let's not talk about it anymore."
Guess my sister knew about that long ago but it's just that she needed to hear from my mum herself.
My mum felt so relief as finally she had the strength to speak out and thus that heavy burden she had been carrying was lifted off.
I was so glad that this trip was a success.. I am happy for both my mum and my sister.
When we reached the hotel, I asked my mum what happened in the room. She related her story:
Mum: "It wasn't that I didn't want you. After you, I gave birth to your brother and your sister. I couldn't take care of so many of you. Since Ah Mah wanted you, I gave you to her."
Sis: "Well, it happened long ago. Let's not talk about it anymore."
Guess my sister knew about that long ago but it's just that she needed to hear from my mum herself.
My mum felt so relief as finally she had the strength to speak out and thus that heavy burden she had been carrying was lifted off.
I was so glad that this trip was a success.. I am happy for both my mum and my sister.
It's a wondeful story with a lucky happy end...
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Kvelli
Someone like your sister always wants their emotional tank to be filled with loves, once its fulfilled she will learn to forgive!:) You have done a great job, Wenn!
ReplyDeleteThat is nice that they reconciled. They must have carried that burden in their hearts for a lot of years. Now they both can find peace.
ReplyDeleteThe knot has finally been untied. That's really wonderful.
ReplyDeleteYour sister should really reconcile with your mother. After all it is not her decision.
ReplyDeleteI am a strong believer of "blood is thicker than water" you know how i wish many of those who discontinue their blood line of relationship should read this post of yours.....
ReplyDeletewe just can't wait till the other is gone than only to reconcile right......
seriously i hope many will read this...
good one Wenn, and really thank you for sharing something personal such as this
Wenn...I feel so happy to hear your story of ur mom and ur sis are reconcile now.
ReplyDeleteBlood runs thicker than water, they say...but some friends may be closer and better than family sometimes. Glad that all is resolved.
ReplyDeleteyea, glad it's all resolved now, thanks for the sharing the wonderful happening in your life. :)
ReplyDeleteThis is so touching. I'm glad both your mom and sister made up in the end. This is the best gift for both of them :)
ReplyDeleteHow nice! Mother and daughter reunion and together in the family. Your trip to JB to-get-her with your mom is very fruitful.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful reunion!! those days, most of our parents were not rich at all.. i was also from poor family.. 8 of us and my father was earning very little ..
ReplyDeleteA Happy Ending Post.. I am sure your mum and sister will continue their bonding from here on.. thanks to u!
It's not surprising that she felt bitter and betrayed. She must have been thinking why her?
ReplyDeleteBut then now that she understood everything, everything ends well
Hi Wenn,
ReplyDeleteI'm still on holiday. Will be back to blogging in January 2011. Thanks for your Christmas Wish yeah?
Have a nice day.
that's a great news and i'm happy for your family too.. :)
ReplyDeleteGreat story line!! Have a great new year's eve!!
ReplyDeleteA happy complete family reunion.Happy for your family:)
ReplyDeleteI was so touched when I read this story. A mother's love will remain forever. And you did a good job to connect both of them.
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